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Letting Go of Control.

Story Waters
5 min readSep 2, 2024

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“I choose to become conscious of my need to control.”

The state of allowance is the realization that you do not need to clutch the steering wheel of life or watch every bend in the road for hidden obstacles in order to feel safe. Enter into a state of allowance by letting go of the ways in which you are seeking to control your reality. Do not wait to do this until you are in a feeling of exasperation or last resort. Do not do this from a position of testing creation or from anger at ‘the Universe.’ Instead, let go of control with complete inner trust and confidence in the existence of the harmony that exists beneath all life — a harmony that will assert itself in the absence of your mental opposition.

This is the knowing that reality has a powerful fail-safe mechanism to resolve any situation — the letting go of control. Letting go of the effort and pain of needing to control can at first sound easy, but, to start with, it may be one of the most exhausting things you have ever done because of how your mind may initially feel adrift and frantic. This reveals how the need to be in control stems from a lack of trust in the self and negative beliefs about the nature of reality.

When letting go of control brings up fear, use this as an opportunity to see your fears more clearly than ever before. In doing so, those fears will begin to transform. This will connect you further into your trust of self — as both an incarnate being and a spiritual presence that permeates all life.

To let go of control is to find the place of trust deep inside yourself — the place that is the knowing of all that you are (which is the knowing that you are the creator of your reality). This is to feel the flow of life and know that it will take you where you need to go. To let go of control is to know that no external forces can harm you because everything reflects you exploring yourself. This is to understand that the level from which reality emerges from consciousness runs far deeperthan our mentality.

To be the choice-maker in your life does not mean to control every aspect of your reality. It can feel good to be in control — just do not need to be in control. To feel the need to control your life is to believe that your life would otherwise be out of control.

Realize the illusionary nature of control. Do not try to control the results of your choices. Make the choices that come to you, and then let them go. Let them manifest their own resolution. In this lies the resolution of the paradox of control of your life being simultaneously absolute — because you are the creator of your life — and yet an illusion — because in entering mortality, you choose to be unconscious of your wider nature. Make your choices with confidence, and then let them go.

CLARIFICATIONS & REFLECTIONS
Due to our survival mentality, the joy-based, child-like dreams we once had for ourselves become entangled with the experiences we have felt most wounded by. At these times, the energy you exert through the belief that your fear-based survival mentality is necessary is the very energy that is tightening the knot that is making you fearful.

This is usually experienced as the evolution of some kind of obstacle between you and what you think you need to survive. Learn to recognize these self-created, energetic deadlocks to know when you are being your own impediment. Recognizing yourself as the creator of the block will naturally cause you to stop feeding it with your fear, and the knot you are mentally bound within will begin to loosen.

A beauty of this reality is that if you step back from active creation and allow yourself to fall into the flow of energy / consciousness that underlies — and fuels — all life, then that motion will always be in the direction of untangling what is tangled, connecting what has become disconnected, and loving what has become unloved. Through the release of control, you enter the state of allowance. This is not an action — it is the release of action that seeks to control.

There is nothing you need to learn in order to allow — it is simply to stop doing (which is to stop controlling). However, because we have become so entrenched in acting from a place of control, we often have to remember how to stop because we have forgotten what not acting from fear feels like (such that it can feel unnatural / fear-provoking).

The connection between allowance and control is made clear through the choice to enter the state of allowance from within a knotted tangle of intentions. In this choice, it can feel as though taking your hands off the steering wheel of life is just as scary as letting go of a car’s steering wheel at high speed. Just as your brain tells you not to stop steering your car through the idea that a crash will ensue — which is helpful for survival in a physical reality — it will also tell you that your worst fears about what will happen are probable if you don’t control every aspect of your reality.

This is because the human mind has become conditioned for survival — rather than thriving — and that is best achieved by fearfully avoiding negatively perceived outcomes (whereas thriving is best served by joyfully seeking exciting outcomes). Recognize that control is not wrong; it is simply that when we are unconscious of how we are controlling, we can become a tangle of conflicting intentions (due to the conflicting beliefs across our own internal separations).

Text from ‘One Consciousness: The Matter of Consciousness’Check out my full library with free mp3 at https://limitlessness.com

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Story Waters
Story Waters

Written by Story Waters

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